They say that the measure of man, or woman’s depth as a person, is by the way they treat others. You never truly know a person until you see how they react to certain situations and issues and then and only then will the truth be revealed.
I have found that often time’s things are said and done in the heat of the moment, which really are better left unsaid. Excuses are made, or diversions are created for what may or may not be going on, instead of really taking the time to just understand and see things from each perspective. I had someone tell me that 90% of all relationships that end, end from a lack of, or miscommunication, whether that is true or not, who knows, but I can certainly see the validity in the numbers.
Like many of you, I have experienced my share of ups and downs, failures and successes, but through it all I try to treat the person with the same courtesy and respect that I would want for myself. Its not necessarily that I am never wrong, because I am certain that I am and have been on a number of occassions, but I find that having a respectful approach does wonders for maintaining a lasting friendship, even if an intimate relationship is no longer wanted by either party.
Over the last year I have come to terms with many changes in relationships, friendships, some I know will endure the test of time, others won’t, but my goal has and always remained the same… to treat everyone with the same love and compassion, as I would if they were my family. I would rather walk away hurt, or disappointed, but knowing that I have been the best possible person I can be, whether the mistakes of the relationship fall on me or not... All we can do is ask forgiveness of the injured party and of thyself for making the mistake and then move forward in a positive direction.
What you do not want done to yourself, do not do to others.
I truly believe that people who come in and out of our lives are like pieces of the puzzle that make us who we are, whether it brings joy, or pain, they too will always be a mark on us, they have taught us something about ourselves that will help us get through the remainder of our lives. So, you can choose to make the most of the experience, or you can choose to become bitter or spiteful… I choose to make the most of it, because if I ever loved them, that love won’t change, even if time and distance remove them.