There are moments in all of our lives, where something happens that makes us wonder if it is meant to be there for a reason. Whether its meeting a new friend, getting a new job, having a relationship, or ending one, we all have this ideology that it was fate, or luck, or just life that brought us to this point.
My belief is that fate, creates opportunities in your life, but it really depends on whether or not you are willing to act on them, or if you have closed your mind to the possibilities. I will give you an example... a few years ago, I helped my ex find a life coach, I interviewed him and we actually got to be friends. The ex only lasted a few sessions, but over the next year, or two I would contact the life coach for questions, etc., to ask for advice. Well, when my life kind of fell apart, he was the first person I called, we talked for over an hour that day and what would turn out to be the most devastating moments of my life, ended up being the best phone call I have ever made. The next year would provide a catalyst for greatness, things I only dreamed of, were now within my reach, not because I made a call, but because the person was there when I needed them. Yes I made the first step, but without that interaction before I would never even considered it, come to find out the life coach wasn't meant for the ex... he was meant for me.
I have friends that have come and gone, but in reality each has brought something different to my life, whether it is a moment of happiness in a cloud of pain, or as lesson to further my life. Just because life has difficulties doesn't mean it should be looked at as thought it is a negative. It can also be seen as a gift...
Right now I have several friends that are going through relationship problems, divorce, crazy in-laws, etc. They are experiencing epiphanies, or turmoil, but they are learning from this process. The key is, are they seeing the possibilities through the rain clouds? I know it is difficult, but if one can sit and ask themselves, what will this benefit me? Will it make me happier to not have this person in my life, even if the fear of being alone, or divorce, or just moving the next level? Could you fall on your face, sure, everyone fails, but its how you handle the recovery that matters, do you become a victim, or do you learn from it and allow it to make you stronger?
Each of us has the ability to see good things every day, we wake up and determine how we start our day. We also have the ability to control our destiny, even when it seems out of control, depressing, or dark. We can shed the old skin and keep moving forward, but only if we choose to see that there is something more to life.
So imagine if you will, you are at a crossroad, each direction will give you a new adventure, do you see the adventure, or do you stand still in fear of making the wrong choice? What would you do, if you knew there was no wrong choice? Far too often, people don't seize the moment, or recognize, the new person in their life, or that the layoff, will provide maybe a better opportunity later in life. We all want to think of the here and now and what we are lacking, instead what can be learned from the experience.
The joy of life really is about the journey, not the destination, so if you drive instead of fly, think of all the things you can see along the way, that you would miss from a plane. The people, the scenery, the family experience. That is what life is like, a really long road trip, its how you look at the experience... if you are a "are we there yet" type person, you wilI miss so much of the fun along the way. So the next time, there is someone new is in your life, ask yourself are they there to help you at that moment, or are they a long term addition to your life, you may not always know, but take the time to recognize the moment and see where life takes you.
What would you do if you could change your world? Not earth shattering, but what could you do to make the most of your life? With or without struggles, because we all have them.