Someone with infinite wisdom, must have said "The past will continue to be your future, if you drag it along with you!" what I failed to realize in the past few months is that I have been doing exactly that... dragging the past along with me and I don't want to ever look back.
The question I ask myself, is why do people hang on to things, when they know they shouldn't? Whether it be a job, a relationship, or even posessions? We as humans tend to hang on to things much longer than we should. We think that if we just try harder, longer, differently, or give up everything we want in the chase of a dream, or what we have set our sites on, then the thing we hold most dear will be ours, we will obtain, or keep what we have always longed for.
I knew someone once that ended up losing everything, relationships, friendships, money and even themselves... all in an effort to hang on to what they valued most... their business, their status and their success, not realizing, all of it was slowly slipping away all along. They failed to realize that the desire, or dream had slowly slipped from a dream, to an obsession, what's truly sad, is it left them with nothing... so was it all truly worth it in the end. Was the control, manipulation and lies all worth it, in an effort to keep something that they really didn't need, knowing it all could slip away at any moment? Its like the old story of a pirate.... they are in search of a treasure, they risk everything, everyone they love, all in hopes for gold.. that is cursed. They live forever with the curse that they now carry... its called regret.
What I failed to realize is that I too was hanging on to something that I should have let go.. a one sided, dysfunctional relationships that were not benefiting me at all. I always felt like if I just tried harder, or if I was just a little bit better that I wouldn't lose what I thought was so important to me, only to realize, it was never about me at all. I got lost in the fantasy and obsessed about how to make it work that it was no longer healthy loving relationships, it was about hanging on to what I thought I couldn't live without.
The sad part is... I was never going to be enough, for those type of people, as nothing they ever had was enough... they failed to see that the world isn't about what you are, its about who you are. A favorite saying of mine is... "success is only temporary, character is with you a lifetime". The meaning of success isn't defined by how much you own, or how much money you have, but in the things you accomplish, the people in your life that you touch and if you lack character, then you end up with nothing, people eventually see through a shallow person.
People choose their lives.
People choose their actions.
People choose their outcomes.
Life is a cause set in motion.
And life is not over until you QUIT!